Authentic godly love is not shallow. It does not disappear in the face of challenges or when life becomes inconvenient. It is not conditional, and it does not require you to constantly perform, prove your worth, or earn affection. It is not selfish or focused on what it can take from you. Instead, this love is agapic, the same sacrificial love Christ has for the Church.
Covenant love is patient and kind. It is not easily provoked and does not keep a record of wrongs. It protects, hopes, preserves, and trusts. This is the love described in First Corinthians 13, lived out in practical, everyday ways. When someone loves you this way, they see beyond your flaws and recognize the treasure within you. They see past your bad days and notice your strength. They look beyond your weakness and recognize the warrior you truly are.
This love does not magnify your shortcomings. It magnifies your potential. They believe in you when you struggle to believe in yourself. They speak life when you are tempted to speak death. They remind you of who God says you are when you forget. With time, this love transforms you, not by control or pressure, but by truth and encouragement.
Covenant love does not enable dysfunction or tolerate compromise. It calls you higher and holds you accountable. It speaks truth even when the truth feels uncomfortable. Growth is celebrated, but stagnation is confronted. Gifts are encouraged, and areas where fear holds you back are gently but honestly addressed. This is iron sharpening iron, as described in Proverbs 27:17. The friction is not meant to wound you, but to refine you.
In covenant love, every person carries strengths that complement the other’s weaknesses. Together, you move faster and farther than you ever could alone. Whether in life, business, ministry, or calling, this partnership is all about alignment. Amos 3:3 reminds us that two cannot walk together unless they agree. Agreement in covenant love flows naturally from a collective identity in Christ. You are aligned because you are both aligned with God first.
This love stems from divine selection, not settling. It is God saying He made this person with you in mind, and you with them in mind. When the connection forms, it feels undeniable. That is why it is important not to lower your expectations or allow loneliness to push you into premature connections. God’s plan is specific, and it is worth waiting for.
Waiting does not mean doing nothing. Psalm 27:14 reminds us that waiting builds strength and courage. Covenant love is not contract love. It does not say, “I’ll stay as long as you meet my needs.” It says, “I am committed regardless of circumstances.” It endures through every season. So, trust God’s timing. When the moment is right, there will be peace, confirmation, and alignment, not pressure or manipulation. Stay faithful, stay expectant, and keep believing. God’s best is worth the wait.